The Act of Marriage
- ISBN13: 9780310212003
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- Notes: Brand New from Publisher. No Remainder Mark.
Product Description
This updated and expanded edition expands some of the subjects that were discreetly touched on in the earlier edition, explores how the latest discoveries in the field of medicine and social practice confirm the principles taught in the book.
The Act of Marriage
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My husband, Joe, who wrote the review above, is the man of my dreams. Who would have thought the Lord would bless me with such a wise, old man - and a virgin as well! Even though there is a gap of 50 years between us his job as Assistant District Manager of Vending Operations for Southwest Toronto keeps him active and gives him ample opportunity to witness for our Lord.
Since Joe has been reading Beverly LaHaye’s book he has decided to also sponsor my 6 teenaged sisters, who will live with us in our little trailer on the outskirts of Toronto. Joe is a firm believer in family and asks about my sisters often.
Joe has sent me a list of things to do to improve our marriage and every night after I leave the Nike plant I sit in front of a candle and work on my checklist.
Thank you, Beverly LaHaye.
Rating: 5 / 5
The Act of Marriage
My husband and I walked away from this book disgusted. Spousal love is intended to be completely self-giving. Married couples must always be on guard against treating each other’s bodies as objects, or using them for purposes other than those for which they were created. Yet this book provided a formula for objectification-husband and wife are reduced to body parts on the page, and the focus is on how to better stimulate each other, reaching greater orgiastic heights through sexual technique and skill. There was no mention of the fact that co-creating a baby with God is one of the most significant and transcendent experiences of our lives.
Pleasure has so little to do with technique that I wonder if the couples who write these books are even in communion with each other. I don’t love the way my husband makes ME feel or the way he “pleases” ME sexually. I love him, period. I would still love him if he were injured and we could never make love again.
Innocence and communication are the two best things you can bring to your marriage. It’s 10 times better to read a down-home anatomy book, with clinical explanations, than these technical how-to mechanics.
Selling 2,500,000 books does not make you wise (Dr. Ruth has sold more books than these guys). Being 60 also does not neccessitate wisdom (watch Barbara Walters on “the View”). After reading the implication that God’s primary design for marriage is one perpetual mutual orgasm, the LaHayes lost any credibility of being wise Christian counselors in my estimation.
People will accuse me of being sexually inhibited, because I thought this book was crude.Why is it that when people want to be reticent about private things and guard mysteries, they are accused of being “prudish” or having a filthy view of sex? Notice the way the Song of Solomon veils everything in metaphors. When sex is dragged out into the street, or reduced to explicit anatomical instructions, it does become ugly. I walked away from that book feeling like I was one big (insert female anatomical part) and my husband was one big (insert male anatomical part).
“You cannot examine the coal away from the fire. You can’t learn the meaning of a rose by pulling it to pieces.” What fun is there if God drops you off on a secret island–your own private garden of Eden–and the LaHayes meet you on the beach with a map of all the best sight-seeing spots?
Rating: 1 / 5
The Act of Marriage
This book gives misleading information on Natural Family Planning (referring to it as the Rhythm Method). Didn’t the LaHayes do any current research, or are they just going by very old cliches? My husband and I have been very successfully practicing NFP and it has strenghtened our marraige and respect for God’s gifts. To understand God’s true purpose for sexual love read Open Embrace by Sam & Bethany Torode instead.
Rating: 1 / 5
The Act of Marriage
Overall, an ‘OK’ read, but teaches human sexuality as though his audience was a grade-six sex education class as rather than mature-minded adults. This book is extremely simplistic and vague, and tends to lean towards a more dellusional depiction of human sexuality, often confining it to the contexts of outmodded biblical principles and male-dominated patriarchy. Lacking modern approach and intimate sensuality, I would sincerely hope that this book is not a reflection of poor Tim’s seemingly mechanical sex life!! I would not recommend this book unless you are totally ignorant and clueless about what sex is all about. I would suggest looking elsewhere for a more relevant guide to sexual intimacy.
Rating: 1 / 5
The Act of Marriage
I borrowed a copy from a friend in preparation for my upcoming marriage, and I was pleasantly surprised at how the LaHayes are frank and left no stone unturned. Good diagrams on the male and female anatomy. Also, their advice on enjoying your spouse to the fullest, throwing modesty out the bedroom door is to be lauded. But what kept me from recommending this book is how their Neo-Evangelical/Arminian theology affected their view on certain sexual techniques.
First of all, oral sex is viewed not as an long-practiced supplement to genital sex but an recent innovation that “good spirit-filled Christians” should avoid or cut out. Second, they confused the Rhythm Method with Natural Family Planning that is effective. (At least they recommended use of a condom and spermicide, though I have reservations about their advice to the bride to use the Pill early.) Third: their usual “four temperaments”…you just cannot place people in a box.
And finally, the biggest drawback: They tacked on this evangelical pitch willy-nilly at the end of this book. ….
If only a Lutheran have written this book…but it had to be an Pre-Millenialist Evangelical…*sigh*
Rating: 2 / 5
The Act of Marriage