The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work
- ISBN13: 9780345480866
- Condition: NEW
- Notes: Brand New from Publisher. No Remainder Mark.
Product Description
In his extraordinary new book, Terrence Real, distinguished therapist and bestselling author, presents a long overdue message that women need to hear: You aren’t crazy–you’re right!
Women have changed in the last twenty-five years–they have become powerful, independent, self-confident, and happy. Yet many men remain irresponsible and emotionally detached. They don’t know how to respond to frustrated partners who just want their mates to show up and grow up.
Enter the good news: In this revolutionary book, Real shows women how to master the new rules of twenty-first-century marriage by offering them a set of effective tools with which they can create the truly intimate relationship that they desire and deserve. He identifies five non-starters to avoid and shares practical strategies for bringing honesty, passion, and joy back to even the most difficult relationship. Using his experience helping thousands of couples shift from despair to profound emotional closeness, Real guides you through the process of relationship repair with exercises that you can do alone or with your partner. With this program you’ll discover how to
- identify and articulate your wants and needs
- listen well and respond generously
- set limits, and stand up for yourself
- embrace and appreciate what you have
- know when to seek outside help
The New Rules of Marriage will introduce you to a radically new kind of relationship, one based on the idea that every woman has the power to transform her marriage, while men, given the right support, have it in them to rise to the occasion.
We have never wanted so much from our relationships as we do today. More than any other generation, we yearn for our mates to be lifelong friends and lovers. The New Rules of Marriage shows us how to fulfill this courageous and uncompromising new vision.
From the Hardcover edition.
The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work
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The enduring theme of this work, which promises so much to women, revolves around men being to blame for the failure of modern relationships. It seems that we have neglected to alter ourselves to the necessary extent. If we did then we could better meet the needs of the liberated woman. The new rules are a process and curriculum whereby men and women can save their unions provided that men learn to act more like women.
Male nature is neither an outcome of regimes nor media slant, it is a result of biology. Over the course of the last decade the social constructionist perspective has been rendered obsolete by science. Women and men are known to have disparate biological imperatives and goals in life. Advocating for one sex to obliterate their concerns and proclivities in the hopes of making things easier for the other is both absurd and despicable. More importantly, it cannot work anyway. Societal cheerleading will never succeed in getting men to purge themselves of their essence…which is what makes them men.
Getting men to verbalize their thoughts and emotions is pointless, foolhardy, downright goofy, and a waste of time. After all, talking about emotion is as useful as singing about electrical engineering. Of course, there is much to disdain about The New Rules of Marriage, but what offended me most was its pervasive celebration of inequality amongst the sexes. Women want more out of relationships today so…men must give it to them. Why is that the case? In every equitable transaction, the side who asks for more must offer more in exchange. This leads us to ask, what do modern women offer men that is superior to what their predecessors proffered in the past?
Take your time mulling that one over because the man who enters into a marriage contract in 2008 faces far more risks than he ever did at any other point in history. In all likelihood, his wife will be infinitely more sexualized, far more materialistic, blatantly more narcissistic, and far less motherly than any woman who bonded with his ancestors. Given this eventuality, is it any surprise that modern men are increasingly reluctant to commit?
Twenty-first century women not only fail to render a quid pro quo they also–by demanding that men retain their traditional function as objects of status and wealth while also adding new requirements such as males be Chatty Cathy’s and neatly-trimmed launderettes–have inflated their price beyond what the market can possibly pay. Today’s woman may describe herself in glowing terms, but a look at the chassis should alert potential customers that what is labeled a Lexus was actually made by Daewoo.
Asking men to alter their consciousness in the hopes of accommodating women is preposterous. Such a wish should reveal to the direct sex that society’s advocacy for equality was a ruse all along; nothing but a dense smog concealing a desire for female supremacy. Rather than internalize these New Rules men should memorize a more imperative injunction: Caveat Emptor.
Rating: 1 / 5
The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work
Understand why marriage is so difficult in today’s world, and how to handle conflict with your spouse.
Rating: 5 / 5
The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work
I can truly relate. This explains everything. A Must Read for anyone in the new generation of marriage. I’m 27, and this fits it all!!!
Rating: 5 / 5
The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work
It’s hard to get past the shameless self-promotion- Real had one idea which proved popular (though for the life of me I don’t know why anyone would find such confrontational manipulation healing) and he has parlayed it into a national business. Either he was very lucky or had a great publicist. As for the current publication i don’t find this book really covers new ground. Use the money you save not buying this book and take your partner to dinner. It will be better for you all around.
Rating: 1 / 5
The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work
If you are reading this review you probably know how complex, confusing, and overwhelming love relationships can be. Terrence Real clears the smoke and breaks relationship “rules” down into truthful, applicable concepts. He has accurate, profound insights that provide the understanding we all need to transform and empower our relationships into examples of “full-respect living”. Be prepared to hear things that will frighten you. It will frighten you because you will learn how you and your partner now relate in toxic ways that do not work. Be prepared to be given straight talk about what you can do to learn and grow. Be prepared to have new hope. Not only new hope for your relationships, but new hope for those of your children too. PS If you or any of the men in your life deal with depression, check out Mr. Real’s book “I Don’t Want To Talk About It”. Again, Terrence Real knows his “stuff”.
Rating: 5 / 5
The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work